Thursday, 23 November 2017

#RalphSays - Happy Thanksgiving, Live & Kicking


#RalphSays - Happy Thanksgiving

Hello friends, family, followers and whoever else there is out there that's reading this. There's been a lot happening here in California - since being reunited. It's been a time of boxing, dumping, donating, sifting and sorting. It's been exhausting and stressful. Ralph is feeling terribly depressed about it all which is totally understandable. 


Ralph Says Things - Live on Facebook

Ralph has been sharing his thoughts, wisdom and randomness on Facebook Lives. Two have been done so far. The first of which has had over 1100 views which is not too bad for a first broadcast. It's had dozens of comments and a few shares. On the FB live, Ralph answered some questions about a dream date, about life wisdom which have already been turned into Red Bubble Designs. (Live Without Anchors he says)

Today's Thanksgiving Live

Today we fired up to do another one (annoying thumbnail for the video which I wish we could change). Anyway, in this LIVE, Ralph says how he ended up in California, due to a practical joke. Funny where the path of life takes us...

On today's broadcast I also asked for some help. Ralph needs a new PC and iPad. So we either need someone to give him an old one, show us where we can get a cheaper one, or throw a buck or pound to the cause and we'll go get him one next week.

It's a little depressing to see how little our attention spans are (people watching about 1:14 of a 15 minute video).

 

Thanks for being here. 

If you wish to support ole Ralph, there are a number of ways you can do so - you can make a donation in any amount, via PayPal (or contact me for other ways if you don't want to do PayPal). You can shop or you can follow (details below)

Sunday, 29 October 2017

#RalphSays - There's No Place Like Home - Time to Move

#RalphSays - There's No Place Like Home - Time to Move

So it's that time. This week, Ralph will be giving notice on the home he's lived in for the last ten years, and moving into something altogether much more small.

Truth be told it's a little heartbreaking for me...Most people, it seems, go up in the world. When they move it's usually to bigger places, but ever since the '80s, each time Ralph has moved, it's to a place that is smaller one than the one before. For a man who's worked hard his whole life, that is the part that I am having trouble with. More trouble than I think he is about it.

Ralph's taking it all in stride. He's come to terms with the fact he's not able to work so much, make much money, drive himself anywhere or do much of anything. That time, I suppose, if we are lucky to live that long comes to all of us...

These days, he spends much of his time streaming TV show in a binge-like-fashion. So it doesn't matter where he calls "home".

This time next month he'll be in his new abode. It's not going to be the easiest of months, but once he's in, he's in.

In the meantime we're scraping together some funds to cover rent on both places. That's a stress in and of itself. Feel free to make a donation to Ralph's Moving Fund here (any amount would be fine - even a buck or two!)

Old Man Walking



To turn to slightly more cheery subjects - Ralph's walking.

Bought him a Fitbit for Christmas and he didn't much give a crap, to be honest.

It's often the case when buying something for Ralph. He gets presents and he's not too fussed.

You should have seen how nonchalant he was when got his iPad. It was the textbook definition of apathy or ambivalence - until a week later when it was his new best friend.

Well the Fitbit took slightly longer for him to come around to, but he finally has.

I'd set his daily steps for 2000 at a time he was probably doing 400 (Bed - Bathroom - Kitchen - Repeat). During my last visit however, we put the Fitbit in his sock and now, low and behold, he's a changed man.

He checks his stats daily and tells me to. He's doing those 2000 steps pretty regularly. Not bad for an ole fella.

It's been quite the journey to get here, but he's doing it and I am so proud. (Next trip it's going up to 3000 or even 4000...)

Who knows, maybe in his new neighbourhood, he'll find a walking buddy? I live in hope...


#RalphSays - Old's Cool (He'd Know)

This week a teacher friend called Jane bought a couple of the Ralph Says "Old's Cool" spiral notebooks off of Ralph Says Things on Red Bubble.

Her notebooks are in "charcoal" - not navy - as pictured above.

As she gave me cash to order her notebooks for her, I thought to myself, "Hmm, I think I'll pick myself up an Old's Cool t-shirt". I've been wanting to buy one for ages. I specifically wanted something long-sleeve and black, so I could wear under things...

This is what I got. I can't wait to see it - in a week or two.

Ralph Says "Old's Cool" - on Red Bubble


It's my newer version of his Old's Cool shirt - this time with a white frame around it. ' Sure it's simple but effective, at least in my own opinion...

What do I know? I'm not a designer, only a daughter trying to help support her dear old dad...

#RalphSays - "Thank You" to John Clark

On the last Ralph Says post it was Joan from JL Formulations who shared pictures of her cool Ralph Says Swag.

This week it's a big Ralph Says "thank you" to John for showing off his two, new Ralph Says shirts! John kindly picked up No Desire to Retire and Young @ Heart last month.


We reckon he wears it well, don't you think? Thanks so much JC. You're a pal!

We appreciate the support people! If you've bought any Ralph Says Swag on Red Bubble, then please share it with us...Remember it's not just apparel, it's stationery, bags, device covers, home decor and much more!

Also please pop by the RST Facebook page - as there are updated posts daily, and FB being FB doesn't always show the posts to its "fans"...

It's also where we'll be doing FB lives soon.

Thanks for stopping by whoever you are, wherever you are...

As Ever, You Can Follow Ralph Says Here:

Ole man Ralph is just about everywhere online. So you we appreciate you following Ralph Says Things on any of the following social media channels:

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Wednesday, 18 October 2017

#RalphSays - Shop on Red Bubble to Support Ralph!

#RalphSays - Shop on Red Bubble to Support Ralph!

So #RalphSays - Shop on Red Bubble to Support Ralph....Ralph's got all kinds of original "Swag" on his Red Bubble store. The "swag" includes things like  T-shirts, Hoodies, Clocks, Stationery, Stickers, Mugs, Cushions, Clocks, Wall Art and so much more. Why? To help Ralph that's why. 

Consider it a bit of charity for someone who's probably worse off than you.

A few posts back on this blog, there was a post about Ralph going mobile...

Well, he'll be giving notice on his current residence soon, and moving to Santa Cruz to be nearer daughter number 2. He'll need to pay rent on both places for November...which is worrying.

To be honest, he's taking it mostly in stride, but it must be incredibly stressful and depressing to even consider...not only the move but the lack of money.
#JSSAMO - Just Say Shit and Move On

Cue: #RalphSays

Why even launch #RalphSays? I've mentioned it before, but you may not have seen it here...It's not just to get him some much-needed cash, but to give him something to focus on. 

Ralph, now in his 80s would still work every day if he could. Without that focus, he gets depressed (who wouldn't?) 

So it was my intention to create a little brand around him to give him some purpose.

Sitting around hoping to win the lottery isn't the best strategy to run out one's days. The odds of winning, in whatever country we're in, are slim to nil. Of course people do win - in most draws but the odds are stacked against us.

Better to create a business, or write a novel (he's working on one slowly but surely) or take some sort of action. So that's why #RalphSays...

Are You Creative?

We'd love to work with anyone who wants to create some unique t-shirts for Ralph Says Things. We'd be happy to split any royalties made. We just need some designs beyond my simple efforts. I'm not a designer but I am doing what I said above, taking action.

So if you're good at design, and want to help an octogenarian out, then give us a shout! We'd love to collaborate with you...

That's All for This Update

Time to crack on with real work...Thank you all for your support of Ralph. We appreciate it so much. You don't have to buy anything, even liking, commenting, sharing posts/tweets etc will help. Or sharing any content of old people with us by tagging us in what you come across.

Follow Ralph Says Things

To lend your support to Ralph you can follow Ralph Says Things on any of the following social media channels:

Ralph Says Things - Facebook
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NOTE: I've decided not to link to Cafe Press anymore and focus on Red Bubble. Have any t-shirt ideas, or want to do a joint venture design, then please let me know by commenting here.





Sunday, 1 October 2017

#Ralph Says - October Already? What's Up At Ralph Says Things?

What's Up At Ralph Says Things?

#RaphSays - October Already, What's Up At Ralph Says Things?

Welcome to another chapter from Ralph Says Things book (not a "book" book, but you know what I mean).

Can't believe it's October already.

Ralph has been out working, and whilst doing so, promoting his #JSSAMO hashtag at every opportunity he gets. He loves telling his customers what it means, and claims they all break into fits of laughter. The same thing happens when I tell people what it means (Just Say Shit and Move On - in case you didn't know). 

We should all take a page out of Ralph's book, but we don't.

Instead we let things fester, and feel hurt and annoyed. Or we let someone else do our "dirty work" - and say what needs to be said....Instead of just sitting people down and having a chat and saying our peace. 

But that's another post for another day...

So What's Been Happening With Us?

It's been a while since the last post - because life is getting in the way.  Here in Scotland, it's been a case of working super hard to try to make a bit of money to support ole Ralph. 

There have been some new Tshirt (or in this case Hoodie) designs added to Ralph's store and I've created my own shop which is filled with loads of new, simple designs...

Whether you buy from the Ralph Says Store/s or mine (TNTs), the royalties will go toward helping Ralph live more comfortably. The main aim is for him to worry less about money and living.

Was delighted to see one of my clients, Joan, from JL Formulations picked up a few Ralph Says items off Cafepress, both the Old's Cool and the #JSSAMO shirts, and shared a picture on Facebook earlier. It warmed my heart. Thanks Joan! That was the happiest surprise of the weekend, and after a not-so-great day yesterday, I needed that boost.

Joan, founding of JLForumulations.com sports a #JSSAMO T-shirt Supporting Ralph Says

Dealing with Elderly Parents

I've been having conversations about, and doing some research on people's challenges with ageing parents. In fact where my conversations once tended to be primarily about men and work, it's now about our parents. This is the case for both sides of the pond.

Whether you have money, or in our case don't, it's hard being in this position. it's a different kind of stress and sadness to losing a parent young, like I did with my mother.

This may be the most stressful and emotional time I've ever had, prolonged anyway. Frankly, I'd have thought by the time I'd reached this age, I'd be financially successful enough to be able to look after my father. 

As I mentioned on a previous post, he had to help me much longer than any father should have to help their offspring. So honestly, there is nothing I'd like more than to be able to look after him now. 

I'd go as far to say that it is my sole driving focus and intention. Truth be told, it makes me feel like a bit of a failure that I can't. 

But the fact is I am trying. I really am doing my absolute best. Seven days a week. I am doing my best to be proactive, to try to blog and to drum up sales, for makeup or candles, or create the designs for the Red Bubble shops. Success is slow to build but we're doing it, brick by brick. Like any new "business" or project, it takes time.

The Sandwich Generation - Not Just Stressful for Parents!

There is a term I recently heard called the "Sandwich Generation". It's not a new term, but it describes people that have to take care of both kids and elderly parents, trying to juggle both, and trying to have a life and career of their own. 

I don't know what the term is for us single men and women, with no kids (who may or may not have partners). We still have the stress, financial worries, and desire to support parents. Let alone for those of us living thousands of miles away from our parent. (Maybe I should come up with my own word - like how I already coined the term "Solo-Non-breeder"....) Apparently the fact that people are living longer, means it's going to get worse before it gets better.

Even without kids of my own, it's still bloody hard trying to juggle life, financial stress, etc - thank you very much

I liken it to putting on your own mask on a plane, before you can look after anyone else.

Join the ALL NEW Live Brain-a-Thon 2017 (#brainathon)

Brain-A-Thon

Finally before I go, if you're anything like me, you too are interested in making more money. So I thought I'd mention this amazing webinar taking place on Saturday. It's an annual, LIVE event called the Brain-a-Thon that lasts several hours and features several doctors/experts (as pictured) in the field of neuroscience and related areas. This LIVE event is FREE and you can learn more and sign up here. I'll be live tweeting while it's on.

Follow Ralph Says Things

To lend your support to Ralph you can follow Ralph Says Things on any of the following social media channels:

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NOTE: I've decided not to link to Cafe Press anymore and focus on Red Bubble. Have any t-shirt ideas, or want to do a joint venture design, then please let me know by commenting here.







Monday, 18 September 2017

#RalphSays - All Days Above Grass Are Great Gifts

#RalphSays - All Days Above Grass Are Great Gifts

So here we are, another week and time for another update. It's been a stressful week for Clan Newcomb (ps: there is no Clan Newcomb, but you know what I mean). Will start with the big news of the week and get that out of the way and then go on to some lighter bits of news.

The Big 'C' in the Family

The big news, you see, is about Ralph's other daughter, Wendy, has been living with a Bowel Cancer diagnosis, and the stress of a major upcoming operation for months now. 

It's been a massive worry for her, and of course all of us. The operation was on Friday and we are pleased to report that it went very well.

She's still in hospital recovering, about to get sprung later. It's not going to be an easy month or two, but she'll pull through. She's had so many thoughts, prayers and healing vibes (even her own hashtag #wendyvibes) being sent her way, and it's our hope that she's kicked ass cancer's ass for good. 


Ralph Still Works

Ralph still likes to work whenever he can. He's showing no desire to retire. I think maybe that should be his next t-shirt, though someone has probably already done it.

It would be nice if he could relax and do fun things but, for my whole life, I've know that Ralph Works (cue new hashtag). That has always been his raison d'ĂȘtre.

It would be good if he had an actual career that he could still go to, as it's what keeps him going. Anyone want to hire Ralph? He's old, he's frail, he can't walk too far, but he's still got most of his faculties and he's pretty funny, sometimes. Am I selling him well? Perhaps not.

This new t-shirt business, I suspect, is my attempt at getting Ralph living and more involved. It's something fun to focus on.

Speaking of tees...

Ralph Says Things on Red Bubble



Since I've yet to be approved by Merch by Amazon, I've turned my focus to Red Bubble and separated our two shops. Now there's the Ralph Says Red Bubble Shop now and then there's TNTs - but on both cases, the royalties from either Red Bubble merch go to Ralph anyway. 


On that note, I'm delighted to say that this week, we received our first royalty payment of fourteen dollars!! Whoohooo! Ok, yeah, it's not a lot, but it's a start...As Lao Tzu famously said, "the journey of 1000 miles begins with that first step" and we've taken it. 

So I'll ramp up the Ralph Says work over the coming weeks. The more we have on there, the more chance one or two designs will sell. If you want to collaborate, do let us know. We're happy to do a revenue share with some creative types out there.

Ralph's on the Move

As reported on a recent blog post, Ralph is going mobile...He's moving to Santa Cruz in a few months. Apart from the Santa Cruz mountains, in the 70s, Ralph's only ever lived in the South Bay - Cupertino, San Jose, Los Gatos, and Campbell...so this move is a big move and to a small space. A trailer. I'll be honest with you, it does break my heart every time I think about it, so I try not to. I suspect it's more of an ego thing than anything. I see this man who worked hard his whole live, built million dollar homes (that we lived in) and each move he makes gets smaller and smaller. It feels like it's gone the opposite way than it should have. But to be fair, Ralph doesn't seem to care too much, so why should I?

Upsides to Everything

There are pros and cons to everything in life. My mother, (Ralph's ex-wife), used to have a bumper sticker on her home salon mirror (she was a hairdresser in the 70s) that said "look for the good and praise it". I never really understood that until around 1999 when I got royally dumped and soon after launched soyouvebeendumped.com. Sorry, I digress here...the point being is that I find the good in everything now. I'm hard wired to. So after the initial reaction to the news of Ralph's impending move, I started to look for the bright sides to it. There are many.

He'll be near Wendy and the beach. Top of the list of course. He'll worry less about money. A big thing. I do visualise that it is the making of him. That he'll make some new connections in the trailer park and enjoy the salt air.

Of course I also hope that our t-shirt business is so good that he'll be able to move to somewhere better in no time...but que sera sera, n'est ce pas?

In case you missed some posts on RST Facebook, here are a few you should view...

A heartwarming pen-pal story via Kimba - our friend in "Oh ho ho" (as Ralph Says)
A cute dancing baby - the grandson of a friend Tim
A Groovy 70s Newcomb family portrait in our #TBT

Wanna Support Ralph?

You don't have to buy anything to support Ralph Says Things. You can follow him, in the following places, and help with a like, comment, or share.

Or simply tag Ralph Says Things in any great content you come across of old people doing cool shit. We appreciate it.



Red Bubble Merch:
Ralph Says Things is here.

Cafe Press Merch:
Ralph Says Things


Saturday, 9 September 2017

Ralph's Been Horsing Around

Ralph's Been Horsing Around

Welcome back lovelies...it's the weekend and time for another quick Ralph Says update...We've sold some more shirts, shared some more pics and even managed to get ole Ralph down to Morgan Hill for a little Equine Therapy. We'll start with his beloved hashtag...#JSSAMO.

#RalphSays - "#JSSAMO - Is The Answer"

Ralph likes to say that his very own hashtag is the "answer" to everyone's communication problems, or more specifically, inter-personal, relationship problems.

Too often people hold on to things, let them fester, stress them out, and really Ralph says the best solution is to "Just Say Shit and Move On"...

Easy for an 80-something year old man to do, perhaps, but admittedly a little harder for the rest of us mere mortals, right?

Still Ralph's wisdom must be catching on because...

We Sold Another #JSSAMO T-shirt!

It's exciting when t-shirt orders come in. We don't really know who they're coming in from, as such, ...But the other day, a #JSSAMO t-shirt was sold, and I was later alerted to the fact that, it was a friend and supporter of the Ralph Says cause - Andrea. She bought it as a gift for a friend - because it sounded like something he'd say, apparently.

Thanks Andrea, we're delighted about this latest sale. And we hope your friend likes his shirt. Let us know. Maybe try to get him to take a pic in it. That would be amazing!

Speaking of the hashtag t-shirts, here's Ralph on one of the hottest days of the year - wearing his own JSSAMO t-shirt via CafePress.

#RalphSays "#JSSAMO" - which is "Just Say Shit and Move On"

Horsing Around in Morgan Hill 

Yesterday Ralph got up early (by his standards) and his daughter Wendy came and picked him up, and drove him down to One Step Closer Therapeutic Riding, Inc in Morgan Hill. 

One Step Closer is an equine place that does "Adaptive Horseback Riding for people with special needs. Equine-Assisted-Therapy for U.S. Veterans." 

This wee trip was arranged by his VA Recreational Therapist, Carmel. To be honest, both Wendy and myself were way more excited about this #RalphDoes adventure than ole Ralph was...but we knew, full well, that he would enjoy it way more than he was expecting to, and of course we were right.



He did enjoy himself. He got to wear his new long sleeve, navy blue #JSSAMO shirt and his JSSAMO travel mug even made an appearance this time too!

And if all that wasn't enough, he got to hang out with this little guy for a wee while too. How cute are these two?


Anyway, I believe the biggest downside of the day, (apart from having to wake early after not falling asleep until 5am, apparently) was that Ralph forgot his Fitbit, and so has no idea how many steps he managed. He reckons "a few thousand".

So that was Equine Therapy yesterday...What do you think we should make Ralph DO next? Let us know! Also what do you think of the pictures? Thanks to Wendy for taking them!

Help Ralph Says Things

So in addition to this website/blog, you can also find Ralph elsewhere on the web...


Red Bubble Merch:
Ralph Says Things Shop is here.

Cafe Press Merch:
Ralph Says Things

We also have stuff up on Zazzle but they were so slow with my own order, I'll be promoting them too much!

Finally if you don't want to follow or buy anything for Ralph you can help us out by sharing any cool content (using #RalphSays) that you come across - of old people disrupting ageing, or as I like to say, "Old people doing cool shit". (You can see I take after my father with that poddy mouth).

On that note, I'm Thea saying "see ya"...





Thursday, 31 August 2017

Ralph Says - Goes Mobile

Ralph Goes Mobile

Well it looks like Ralph will be moving into a mobile home (or trailer) in Santa Cruz in a few months, (much to my chagrin). Know this, it is my intention that this will only be the briefest of stays in such a place for him...A stopgap, at the most.

Ralph is a man who has worked hard (not necessarily smart) his whole life, and now, well into his eighties, he's little to show for it. 

Truth be told it's more than a little heartbreaking to witness, and realise he has arrived at such a destitute place.

He has no savings, property or investments...well you might say, apart from me, (Thea). 

Having moved halfway across the world to Scotland, it has been challenging at times for me to survive on my own. Cue: dear old dad.

There is little doubt in my mind that Ralph would be financially better off if he didn't have to help me, as much as he has, and for as long as he has

That, as you might imagine, is a heavy burden of guilt for me to bear. 

It is undoubtedly why I am so determined to make Ralph Says Things a success and to be able to "pay" him back.

It's my turn to support him if you will.

Ralph Says Things - Domain

Ralph now his own domains. I hadn't registered any before because I wasn't really sure what I was doing and where it was going. I'm still not, if truth be told, but I did think it was "high time" he had his own domain name so he does. I registered a couple but his main domain is ralphsaysthings.com...

For now that just brings you here but as inspiration arises, it will perhaps lead you somewhere else in the future. I envisage a community that will share content not only of Ralph's, but of other golden oldies who are disrupting ageing too. Content that will inspire people, and make people feel good, ultimately. If you come across anything you think is wonderful then please share it on social using #RalphSayThings - and I'll be sure to find it.

Old's Cool & #JSSAMO First Sales!!


#RalphSays - #Old's Cool & #JSSAMO - first t-shirts sold!

Woke up and had an email that we had our first sale on Redbubble. I couldn't believe it. 

The designs have been up for a month or so (on a few sites actually), so I guess that is not too bad...

No idea who bought them, but "Thanks so much" to whoever you are. 

We really appreciate it. We've been talking about other designs we could make too. Still waiting to be approved by Amazon's "Merch" but any day (week?) now I guess.

Watch this space.

Ralph Says TV

This week have been toying with the idea of a Ralph Says TV show. Slightly inspired by '50 Ways to Kill Your Mammy' (a Sky TV show in the UK) - I do wonder if we can come up with some things for him to do too. 

You know, like, Ralph Says Things could become Ralph Does Things, perhaps? 

Only slightly less ambitious and adventurous than the stuff Baz makes his "mammy" do...I can't see ole Ralph jumping out of an airplane in his 80s...but you never know, I guess?

Not sure what we could have just yet, but some ideas are brewing...

If you have any cool ideas to further​ the Ralph cause, then please get in touch.

Finally What about "Ask Ralph"?

Do you have any questions for Ralph? You could maybe ask Ralph for advice, thoughts or opinions on your life or his. 

Questions can be serious or silly, easy or hard - the choice is yours.

I think he'd come up with some pretty quirky or random things to respond with, but I am not 100% sure.

Let us know...

Remember to catch Ralph on all good social media channels as Ralph Says Things. FB is the biggest community so far..

#RalphSays - Happy Thanksgiving, Live & Kicking

#RalphSays - Happy Thanksgiving Hello friends, family, followers and whoever else there is out there that's reading this. There...